As we start to close out this year, I wanted to look at a wound that you can gain the most healing from. This month for the “Releasing the Emotional Wounds Series,” I wanted to explore the deep wound of holding unforgiveness. As this can be the most transformational practice you do within your life when you truly learn how to forgive yourself and others who have hurt you.

For some situations, it’s easy to forgive, like if someone bumped into you at the grocery store, even if they didn’t say they’re sorry, you would just eventually let it go. However, when you look back at your life you may realize you hold some past grievances, whether it was with a friend that said they’d be there for you and never showed up, the lover that let you down in some way, or even the boss that said they would always have your back that turns against you.  When resentment and undealt feelings reside within you, they tend to build up over the years creating more pain within your emotional field and body. Creating much havoc within your life, as the bitterness will only get louder until you face it. In some cases, you may feel that if you let what happened go, that it means that everything that occurred was okay, and no retribution will take place. Holding on to the pain, hoping that in time that the person that caused you these hurts will get back the pain that they caused you. Yet what’s really happening is that the energy is in a holding pattern creating negative emotions within you, and eventually disease within your body. So it’s a tricky subject, and one that can go into great depth when you look at karmic implications from other lifetimes, or even contracts that you signed up for to experience certain situations so you may learn and evolve from them. You could have decided before entering in this life to experience these bad situations so that you could eventually become the master and teacher of this pain to best assist others. You could have had karma with this person from other lifetimes that had to play out in a certain way to try and balance out the scales between you two. Whatever the reason these pains came in for you, the most simplistic way to heal them all is through forgiveness. If you have karmic situations, this will help stop the karmic pattern as you end it with forgiveness. If you have set up a contract to go through such pains, it will help you transcend the hurt so that you may evolve and become the healer of this wound. Also offering you more peace and clarity to move forward upon your path. You may also realize, that the person that has done wrong to you is also wounded in their own way. Again, not to say that it was right for them to mistreat you, but that they were acting out of their pains, and in some cases, they are in a very dark place.

When moving through forgiveness, know that you will need patience as it takes time to heal, especially on the bigger hurts. You may even want to process your feelings first, by expressing all your inner pains outwardly.  We are often taught that we shouldn’t be too over emotional, especially when it’s in a negative sense, but we are human and here to explore our emotional depths! So let that energy out! You can do this in a safe place, whether it’s punching a pillow, or screaming in the hills, or even journaling all the anger that has come up for you in the past. Once you feel more neutral, then you will want to explore if any other feelings arise with those that have hurt you. Whether it’s feelings of disappointment or sadness. Then let those emotions release. When you feel within your heart ready to forgive, then you can start the following exercise below:

• Find a place where you won’t be interrupted, and sit or lie down in a comfy position and then close your eyes. Then, in your mind’s eye, bring forward all the people that have made you upset in any way within your life (you may want to write out their names first if there are a lot of people).
• Then ask your Higher Self to release any negative etheric cords or energy attachments that you have with anyone present.
• Once you feel that attachment release, then ask that forgiveness be sent to each person present. You may want to look at each person within their eyes to say “I forgive you” or just feel the energy of forgiveness being sent from you to them.
• When you forgive each person you will see them turn and walk away and move into the light. Letting you know that they are no longer a negative aspect within your life.
• Once everyone has left into the light, then move the energy within, and forgive yourself for any shame, guilt or any harboring feelings of negativity. 
• Then ask the Light of Source to pour down within and around you, blessing you with unconditional love and healing to close out this forgiveness practice.

When you begin to forgive others and yourself within life, you will find that you are blessed with more peace and clarity. It’s truly a gift to forgive and be able to move forward more exponentially into your purpose of being here. Again, take your time with this process, and for some things, it will take longer, so be patient with yourself. Let me know how this process goes for you, and how you feel afterward as well!

Sending so much love and blessings to you always!

Sara