Today I wanted to look at forgiveness and how powerful it can be to bring in more healing and peace into our lives. We will also look at two ways on how we can forgive.
Forgiveness can be kind of a touchy subject. Some may wonder why we should even bother to forgive someone if they treated us so badly or unfairly in the first place. However, when we are holding onto that person with such anger and vengeance, it will be a dark energy that stays within us. As this energy stays within our energetic field it starts to fester and grow into our body, creating pains, and if held even longer then it creates dis-ease. Thus when we are choosing to not forgive it is actually hurting ourselves more than the other person, for they may not even know we are upset with them or it’s not affecting them as much as it is us. So we may feel we are doing a good thing by holding them to what they did, when ultimately we are just hurting ourselves over and over. Now I don’t want to say that anyone that created such pains in our lives isn’t wrong, they very well could be. However, we are more wanting to forgive that person to be able to let go of the negative energy within ourselves that is building up. Forgiveness of that person doesn’t mean we have to even bring them back into our lives (if we so choose), it could mean we just release those negative emotions of them, and then let them go.
When we are forgiving others it clears up the negative gunk that is built up within our energetic field and within our body as well. This then allows more positive energy, clarity and light to come forward and heal as needed and move our vibration up and up. Thus we may start to see the bigger picture as to why we were in this situation with that person in the first place, or we may realize it’s time to let go of that person in our life and know we deserve better. It truly starts to bring in more clarity and understanding as we go through the forgiveness process.
The higher Divine message that I keep receiving is that the best healing is done with true forgiveness, for ourselves and all others. If we can take a step back and remember that each of us, including ourselves, are learning and growing in our own ways, and doing the very best to get through life. With this awareness, we can really begin to be less hard on ourselves and others, and open up to more compassion and understanding.
Now let’s take a look at two ways we can best offer forgiveness:
- One is to get a piece of paper and pen out, and to write out everyone we have negative feelings towards, big or small (we also should remember to add ourselves). Then one by one, we will want to go through each person on our list. We will start by visualizing or sensing the first person we have listed, and then we can tell that person how we truly feel about them, and how they hurt us. We will want to take as long as needed to fully release all the feelings we have within. Once we feel complete, then we can ask our Higher Self and Source to release all etheric ties that are keeping us connected to the other person. Then we can take a deep breath in and out until we feel the energy lighten up. Once we are complete then we can let that person know that we are now ready to forgive them. Knowing that we are all participating on this Earth with our own purpose, and that we may not know the full meaning as to why they did what they did, but as beings of light we are open to forgiving them now and allowing the clarity to come in when ready. We can then ask our Higher Self and Source to bring in more love and light to each of us. Then continue down the row with each person, and then lastly finishing with ourselves. This can be the biggest healing point, since we tend to be the hardest on ourselves. Once we are done with the piece of paper, then we can safely burn it or place it in water to cleanse away any left over negativity.
- The second way is called Ho’oponopono. This is a Hawaiian exercise where we say four phrases over and over, which are the following:
- I’m sorry
- Please forgive me
- I love you
- Thank you
So same as the exercise before, we can write out everyone we hold any negative feelings toward, and then repeat the above four phrases over and over for each person until we feel complete. Some people may take a few minutes, some may take much longer. We just want to listen to ourselves and trust that we will know the amount of time for each person to use this prayer. This seems like a simple practice, but it is truly powerful and healing. We can experience more clarity and light after doing this even after one day! I highly recommend this practice on a regular basis.
I also want to mention that we don’t need to rush this, or feel obligated with the forgiveness process. There may be some people we just aren’t ready to forgive and let go of. That’s okay too. We can take our time, and when we do feel ready we can try the exercise again.
The forgiveness process can be something we do on a regular basis as situations come up when we are feeling ill feelings toward others. Then once we get more familiar with this process we will start to automatically hold more compassion and understanding for others and ourselves. It truly is a miraculous thing. The more we practice forgiveness it will also get easier, and we will begin to see everything from a higher perspective. In this space we will also be stronger and we won’t allow the energy to affect us as much, we will begin to have more kindness and compassion for other people. We will start to see that they may be going through their own life lessons or rough patches, so it’s okay to let them go through that without us being brought down into it. And it isn’t that we are being heartless either, we are just respecting each person’s journey as their own and honoring our energy and body to be the best possible. For as we hold more light we are then able to bring more light to this world to naturally heal others and help others see there is a better way. As Mahatma Gandhi lovingly said, “be the change that you wish to see in the world.” It truly is best to start with ourselves, and starting with forgiveness is one of the strongest and best places to begin the healing process!
I would love to hear of your experiences with trying the above practices, or if you have your own way, please do share!
Many Blessings and Love,
Sara
